something i've learned is that when someone intends on keeping a secret you, the one its kept from will never even know there is a seceret.  now sometimes because for example i know something you don't and i won't tell but i know your about to do something that would jepordise whats being kept in confedence i will ster you or atempt to steer you in the path that will do the least harm but when i do so i will make it seem that i am doing so because that is what i would do in your situation you would never know that i knew something you didn't.' m however the second that i walked up to you and said "doug i know a secret and it involves you" i have broke the bond and|or i am only trying to piss you off by forcing your hand at something.  i've held and actualy still hold the secrets of a few people i understand what its like to want to walk up to some niave bitch and say"what the fuck wrong this guy hates you move on and stop pretending him and i had a 3 hour talk aboiut you a week ago its over and you just don't know it."  but instead of say i know and you don't, or coming out with confedintal info i have a talk with the girl try to steer the convo to her seeinhg for herself that its over and then i simply stand up kiss her cheeck and walk away.  seecrets are lioke  gardens they must be tended to if given to a good keeper it will be used to benifet everyone without hurting many if water just right relationships will form and be buiuilt due too the handling of it but in the wrong hands that secret will destroy work marige money friendships ruin reputations and at time hurt people if watered to much it is exaberated and hate will come from it if wtered to little itwill die and so will the trust the person who gave the secret once had in the secret keeper.  secrets are very complex things when recieving a secret ask yourself why am i being to;ld this do they expect me to help  their cause and when i do help do they want me to break confedience  anyone who says i know something you don't is looking for personal gain anyone who says i can't answer for your good is usally hiding somthing from you to see if they can get somethi9ng from you.  i don't tell women secrets anymore and i no longer deliver woimen secrets where its in a nice way and i spoon feed them the messasge and i always confirm what woman tell me in secret